What we didn't think of was how wound tight we would be feeling after days of getting only 4 hours of sleep; answering phone calls from guests asking if they can bring an extra friend, or change their entree because now they're going to try being vegan; listening to your mom about how she can't believe that your aunt, her sister, didn't even (fill in the blank) . So now you're doing the best that you can to hold it all together because in just a little bit you're going to have the wedding of your dreams, right?
think about the details. Share all of the details with someone who can help you on your wedding day. So not the groom, and not your mom, and not your maid of honor. None of these people will be able to sprint off to fix something that may come up. Of course I wish that every bride could have a coordinator for their wedding, but not everyone does. So maybe there is a cousin, or work associate that you can ask to help. Or even pass off different tasks to different people so they're in charge of making sure that just that 1 thing is how you hoped.
Yes, I know you can do it all. I know you have planned this so well, you know it like the back of your hand. I understand that you were your sister's MOH, or are the event planner at work. This isn't about being capable of planning. I'm suggesting you think of how you're going to get this job done while you're getting your photos taken. With so many planned details, not to mention the extra ones saved in your mind. Are you setting yourself up for disappointment?
A few years back, when I was finished styling a wedding party, and was packing up my car, I saw the bride's limo pull up to the front of the hotel. It was a little misty on that October day. And the bride was staying in the private cottages across the street. I watched as everyone came out of the cottage, carrying their dress bags, extra shoes, make up bags, etc. The bride had hiked up her silk Shantung so that her hem wouldn't get dirty. But as she stepped off the curb, her white silk heel hit a puddle. She was so mad she let go of the dress for an instant, and it too got a bit wet- she was in tears!..... If only someone had just asked the limo driver to pull up in front of the cottage. Such a simple solution. But not one person thought ahead to this tiny detail.
It was a tiny detail, but your day will be full of them. From the florist telling one of your attendants to make sure to squeeze the water out of the bouquet before giving it to you - but then the photographer picks it up and hands it to you. So, no worries, they can photo shop the water spots from your photos- even though no one has seen your dress yet as the ceremony is still an hour away; Cake cutting time, and you want to taste the chocolate raspberry layer, and not the lemon poppy seed one - but you forgot to ask which one was where; You decided that 1/2 way through your father daughter dance it would be so sweet if your new husband escorted your mom on to the dance floor, but you forgot to tell him.
there are many little whispers we have while planning our special day. But if you don't write them down, and then pass on the information it might not happen. I know you want to surprise everyone and have the most magical day. But please, please, please share your thoughts with someone else who can help you make sure these tiny details happen, and help to make your day amazing, not filled with tiny disappointments. Because you don't get a second take at that scene. This is it! So don't set your self up. Know that at least 3 things will go wrong. So ask for help. And most importantly you are still getting married!
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